Becoming Aware of Flow
Every thought that you bring with you in every moment of the day is continually transforming you. Your mind is a strong vessel that you allow to govern you. You can start your day mired in fears, limitations, and sadness and have them drag you down. A situation may be playing in your head over and over, and that feeling of disappointment with how you mishandled it can easily become your theme song. Many of us have been conditioned to believe and trust others more than ourselves—it’s the notion that there’s some authority figure or expert who knows what’s best for us.
Whatever beliefs you hold create the destination of thought and your day-to-day reality, and yet there is also a physical reality you need to be increasingly aware of. It’s not like you can snap your fingers and transform your physical reality with a thought. A Tesla or a soulmate won’t magically appear at your front door. It requires conscious effort, choice, intention, and the flow of pure energy.
You stand at a crossroads of possibilities. You can choose to allow in a healthy thought or an unhealthy thought, each directing your life. That’s how powerful you are. When you’re aware of your power and energy source, you can open your heart to fresh opportunities. Every action you take and every thought that comes before it connects you to possibilities and outcomes that were not available before.
Knowing your own heart can shift your life in both revolutionary and small ways. But it requires alignment between what your mind tells you and what your heart and your intuition are whispering deep inside of you. Before acting on the thoughts that come to you, which you’ve been conditioned to listen to from your mind, you can go deep into your heart and listen like never before. And no one can tell you what’s going on deep inside of you. You can become aware that belief lives in the mind and hope is carried in the heart. Imagine what can transpire when they’re aligned and playing in harmony, just like a symphony.
To create, you align your actions with your words. You can say you are healthy and yet continue to consume sugary soda pop and deep-fried food, which are most likely unhealthy for your body. You can say you care about the environment and yet choose to consume products from companies that pollute the environment, are cruel to animals, or treat people poorly.
What actions are you taking—are they unconscious or fully conscious? By examining your thoughts and checking whether they’re aligned (healthy) or misaligned (toxic), you become increasingly conscious of your choices and their impact on your life.
Do You See Problems or Opportunities?
Rumi, the thirteenth-century Persian poet, reminds us that “everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in our heart.” You choose whether you’re facing opportunities or challenges. You can create peace within yourself or you can war with yourself and those around you. When you imagine from the heart, you become aware that everything begins with a single thought in your mind. You have the ability, on your own or in a community, to imagine and create.
You are in charge of how you respond and react. When you came into this world, you were wired and given gifts. But over time, your conditioning and education may have taken you away from leading with your heart’s capacity for compassion, abundance, and connection and was dominated by being rooted in material existence, goals, and achievements. At this stage of the journey, tapping into compassion for all things becomes foundational.
As a child, you experienced life and did not judge because you had not been taught how to judge yet. Imagine if you looked at our society now and saw people simply allowing self-compassion to navigate us to joy. Instead, today you will mostly see people judging and blaming ourselves and each other, while endlessly pursuing a state of fabricated happiness and success.
Are You Aware of the Root Cause?
Getting to the root cause of our judgments is one way of healing, but it is somewhat difficult for many of us who have been conditioned to believe that our thoughts need to be right and are more important than anyone else’s. And you may be caught up in a constant need to validate your position, because allowing any other thinking challenges you to the core.
In my case, I started to become more of an observer of what was happening around me and experienced the divisions, especially when someone wanted to prove me wrong. At some point in our interaction, I would stop and agree with them. And what I experienced was their disbelief and need to continue to be right. But when I would say, “You’re right” and pause for a moment and then say, “Now what?” they had nothing to say. They lived for the thrill of the fight. I don’t want to fight anymore. I envision healthy, new possibilities for communication opening up between people when we no longer feel a need to win and crush someone else.
I wanted to be healthy and clean out the toxicity of judging, blaming, and shaming around me. But it wasn’t just about the external world; I also looked at where I was judging myself harshly and keeping myself divided with beliefs that were planted deep inside of me as a child when I was taught to be a good girl. I would find myself being incredibly self-critical, which always brought with it a sense of deep shame at being instructed that I was doing something wrong. Until I understood where this shame lived inside of me, it held me captive in old, painful stories. I asked myself the same question when I was deep in self-judgment: Now what?
I learned that I could take little baby steps, putting one foot in front of the other as I made my way into the unknown territory outside the confines of the old programming. So, when you find yourself struggling in your life, can you bring self-compassion and compassion for others into the picture? The conscious energy you bring into flow helps you close doors that lead nowhere, so that healthy windows and paths can emerge. Are you being called to be an architect of our future?
Excerpt from Expedition 19: Are You Keeping Room in Your Heart for the Unimaginable? in F*ck the Bucket List for the Health Conscious: Trusting Your Heart (Book 3)