Coloring Inside the Lines
Coloring in our own way means stepping out of conformity. Life is different for each of us and yet, we have learned to compare ourselves to others. It starts early on at school and for some, never ends.
During our life, we will be misunderstood. Not everyone gets us. Sometimes, our paths cross with people who are threatened by the choices we make. There is so much pressure to follow the rule book and not titter off the path created by society. Coloring inside the lines is what we are taught over and over in different scenarios.
We will each come across people who want us to act and be a certain way. It happens to each of us but is not an easy when we know we are on a different path. And when we encounter people who are threatened by the choices we make, we may be attacked or discredited.
Also, it happens quite a bit that people will be critical of how we behave but are unaware they don’t walk their talk. It is easy to judge and blame another. It is much more challenging to understand that we each play a role in every story that unfolds in our lives. And not everyone is ready to take a hard look in the mirror.
Limiting Beliefs Color Our World
Throughout human history, beliefs have torn us apart and we have witnessed the depth of alienation that exists when we don’t conform or follow quietly. But many choose not to understand that every one of us has choices to make when it comes to our own wellbeing.
And right now, more and more of us are choosing to question everything; knowing there is another way. We are beginning to become conscious that when we see possibilities, we begin to step into our power. And maybe we are coloring outside the lines of conformity and creating our own graffiti?
We no longer need to win or lose arguments. And our lives are not spent on feeling anger toward people who may not be on the same path as us.
We don’t have any control over what people think of us. But we do have control over how we react and whether we choose to live in judgement, or not.
No matter what the situation we find ourselves, there is always choices we can make to live healthy lives. Maybe we can be grateful for all we have instead of focusing on disappointments or heartbreaks? We can choose to let go and bring in healthy living from moving our bodies to connecting to someone who needs us right now. We are more powerful than we have been told.
Kindness Has Ripples
Often, while painful, the healthiest approach is to walk away from stories and people who judge us harshly because we don’t color our world in the same way.
Maybe this is what being kind is all about? Perhaps it starts with learning to be kind to ourselves and not putting up with someone else’s shenanigans?
An act of kindness brings in more kindness and love. It provides us with hope and gratitude even during the most challenging times.
Walking away from toxicity in our lives is a muscle we are here to develop. But the question is what are we walking towards?
Our world needs more of us coloring with pure love and openness to live in greater harmony. We are not here to please everyone and continue to be good boys and girls. That is an old story that can cause some of us great harm.
John Lennon reminds us that “Peace is not something you wish for; It’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away. Being honest may not get you a lot of friends, but it’ll always get you the [healthy] ones.”
What if we surround ourselves with people who simply love us for who we are, and not what we are expected or told to be? What would we experience now?