Becoming Conscious of Why You Are Communicating
Leaders who practice conscious communication are aware why they are communicating. They engage in dialogue, constructive exchanges, questioning, listening, learning and reflecting.
It is no longer just the responsibility of corporations to make the change we want to see in the world. Each of us is responsible for uncovering our own purpose and then coming together around a shared purpose that speaks to our hearts. We need to connect with those we resonate with and realize that the opportunities we seek may no longer be part of the mainstream.
In the world that is emerging, thanks to The Great Questioning and more people stepping into our power, there will no longer be a place for top-down communication. In this healthy world, communication flows openly, without gatekeepers controlling who receives what messages.
There will be no audiences when we truly understand the power of engagement; unless we go to the theatre, concert, ballet, or opera. No one will be talking at us because we will be conscious that we have a responsibility to ask questions and contribute.
Are We Here to Win or Create, Together?
So, What is Conscious Communication?
When leading from our hearts, our ability to listen and have empathy are foundational. By fostering conscious communication, we can focus on the work at hand.
We have been trained to communicate in ways that are unnatural. And what happens when we collaborate in teams or even in personal relationships is that some of us are unconscious of our unhealthy patterns where we need to be right or be heard. When we have a shared purpose, no one gets offended because we are working to create something together and we know that nothing is personal.
Conscious communication means that you are clear about what you are saying and are also open for someone to question and understand what you mean. You don’t need to get defensive because you are not trying to manipulate or be seen as the smartest person in the room. If you made it on the team, it is most likely people know you have what to contribute so it’s your opportunity to be radically honest.
And when we do notice discomfort, we can become aware that we may be stuck in old unconscious patterns and notice what’s making us uncomfortable. It takes practice in a world in which we have been wired to listen to authority and not to question anything. It’s an art of becoming aware of:
- What do I truly want to share (not say or tell)?
- Why do I feel I need to force my opinion and be right?
- Am I trying to dominate or contribute?
- Can I openly share my thoughts and ask for feedback?
The first step is becoming aware and conscious: observing and participating without judgment. Conscious communication is not only more possible because of the technological tools that are now available, but also because we need simplicity and real-time information. And it is a tool available to each of us.
There’s been a lot of hype about finding your why and your purpose and it’s only effective when it is integrated into how an organization is actually run. It is increasingly important not only to be clear on purpose, but also for the organization to live it through how they treat the people who work with them, buy from them, and partner with them.
Conscious communication means walking our talk through our actions and consciously allowing our words come to life.
Be Impeccable with your word
Don’t take anything personally
Don’t make assumptions
Always do your best
Be skeptical but learn to listen
The 5 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
While many antiquated business practices still exist, it’s becoming more and more urgent to leave them behind and discover healthier paths forward. We can choose to stop believing the myth that change can only come from the top of the organization because we live in a more open and connected world where there is an increase in transparency of communication.