Discerning When, and How, to Say Yes or No (aka, Setting Boundaries)
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”
What if Instead of Setting Boundaries, We Lived Them?
It’s one thing to be aware of our boundaries, and another to draw hard-line and live them. When we draw lines, we divide and separate.
We have been taught to be nice as a way not to offend someone else; and too often, it comes at our own expense. So we may say yes to placate someone else but inside it causes us great stress and discomfort. In this situation, no one really wins. But is the point of our lives, at the end of the day, to win?
We can criticize and blame the world around us for all the hardships and challenges we face. We can expect people to respect our boundaries and adhere to them. These are all choices that are equally available to each of us. But what if there is another way to look at boundaries; a way that supports and strengths us?
Living our own truth entails us to have high self-awareness and a deep knowing of ourselves. What if we practice discernment and let go of our expectations that others adhere to our beliefs and simply start living them ourselves. What if we didn’t need to put lines in the sand and protect our boundaries but share what we are willing to invest in, and what we choose to walk away from by making it a way of life?
What if others can decide whether they want to be in our lives exactly as we are? When we choose not to fight or need to be right and say enough, we let go of the suffering and heartache that division creates. In a world filled with conflict, your life may find some peace when you no longer need to stand up or apologize for the choices you are making, and not expect others to comply with your way. When you choose to live your boundary, instead of defending it, there is no room for conflict. Your energy is yours to direct.
When Enough is Enough
Living our boundaries means that we are clear on our enough, and when enough is simply enough. There’s no need for unnecessary drama that can take a toll on our health and well-being. What are you living for?
This is a journey for each of us, with different expeditions, that sparks our willingness to bring our full self to face our challenges and opportunities. It’s a story of how we can begin to trust ourselves enough to know what’s healthy and toxic for us, live our boundaries, and make peace with our body, mind, and soul.
On this adventure, we each are gifted the opportunity to learn to honor our anger, heartbreaks, and disappointments by learning forgiveness for what we didn’t have the capacity and ability to know when certain events took place in our life. This is an opportunity of a lifetime to unleash our truest and wildest instincts so that we can be brave and courageous enough to create the healthiest life we can experience.
We really deserve nothing less!