Emotional intelligence goes beyond being a mere book or formula; it is a genuine way of living.
Discernment is not judgment as it helps us make healthy decisions. Judgement, on the other hand, most often, causes harm as it separates us and is rooted in limiting beliefs. Judgment keeps us trapped in stories.
Our judgements are based on fears and perceptions and keep us in defense or offense. That’s what happens when a person feels judged or attacked. But why do we want to attack or offend anyone?
This is part of the world that is on fire around us right now. any are so entrenched in conflict that judgment becomes a weapon used for protection and defense. We draw lines in the sand and fire missiles at each other while we are instructed to master conflict resolution.
But is that really why we are here? To go to war every day and live in the division and separation of judgment? Do we want to continue to put on our protective gear, dodging someone else’s stories and expectations?
Every action, thought and emotion influences every aspect of our lives within us and around us. When we move beyond fixed beliefs and stories of good and bad, we can begin to become aware of what is healthy and unhealthy for our own wellbeing—no one else’s.
Our level of awareness also increases as we choose the healthiest path for ourselves. When we embrace a healthy existence, we no longer find a purpose in judging or being angry at the world. And by becoming compassionate and caring with ourselves, we heal our own hearts. We cannot do anyone else’s work or save anyone.
Freedom from illusion is truly possible by fully accepting ourselves, outside judgments and ties to paradigms we have outgrown.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched — they must be felt with the heart. — Helen Keller
And when we communicate straight from our hearts, we slowly let go of judgement. Doing this allows us to make peace and practice discernment. But not everyone is ready to be open and honest. When people around us are in fear and suffering, hearts are yet to be freed.
Connecting heart-to-heart is what’s possible and one of our greatest opportunities for healthy relationships and communities. We release the stagnant energy of judgement and play. When we have mind-heart fusion, and do our work, we leave judgement behind. Because we now love creating balance and wellbeing where we are able to truly be present with life.