Choosing to unlearn helps us get unstuck. We start simplifying our lives. And we don’t give in to how others need to define us.
Personally, I don’t want to be in a box with a big label on it, even when I am dead. I want to unleash my curiosity to try new things and learn from every experiment. And that’s what my virtual tombstone will hopefully say about my life.
Most of us have been taught to wait and be picked. The challenge with this approach is that it can be solved only by hiring us, asking us out on a date, producing our film, representing our music or publishing our book.
We feel valued when we get picked to be part of the the sports team or the popular group. If we work in a large organization, we feel a sense of accomplishment when we get picked to be part of an important project for the company. We are validated as being important and good enough to be there.
When we are constantly busy, it is hard to be creative and “find the time” to do what matters most. And we tend to keep ourselves busy and overwhelmed because it makes us feel that we have achieved something. It keeps us stuck in our routine of self-importance about our to do list and the joy we experience when we mark items off as “done.”
We are so busy doing but can we sometimes simply stop and ask ourselves what’s worth doing? Regularly killing projects and deciding what we are not going to do is a way to get us unstuck.
Taking a look at what we are doing from a different perspective is key. Maybe we need to stop and breathe more to be able to ask the questions that get us closer to creating our healthy environment? A year from now, how important would checking all those items off our to do list be for what we want to do?