Never Being Alone
Being alone offers us a unique opportunity to tune into ourselves, granting us the freedom to explore life on our terms.
Some people dread the thought of solitude, seeing it as a last resort. But can we shift our perspective? Solitude isn’t a fallback option; for many of us, it’s a conscious choice. And it’s a choice that brings a ton of value.
Take food, for example. When w’ere alone, we get to eat what we want. Want to add extra garlic to our pasta? Go for it. We savor our meals the way we like them, not how others prefer. The consideration is being conscious of our health and truly knowing what’s healthy for our body.
Being alone lets us bask in silence. This quiet time is not about emptiness; it’s an opportunity for self-dialogue. When we talk to ourselves, we understand ourselves. That leads to greater self-trust. Think of a solo hike in the woods. Our thoughts and senses are heightened. We’re part of nature, and that’s a form of dialogue too.
Better Being Alone and Being Together
Imagine life as a car ride. When we’re alone, we control the steering wheel. Want to speed up a bit? Slow down? We’re in charge of our comfort level. We can drive at our own pace, admire our chosen sunsets, and soak in the world in our own unique way.
Choosing to be alone doesn’t mean we’re forsaking relationships or community. In fact, it’s the opposite. By spending time alone, we nurture our healthiest self. We bring that self into our relationships, enriching them. We can love being alone and still be an active, caring part of a relationship and community.
What if being alone doesn’t mean we’re lonely? Loneliness is a human-made concept that’s out of sync with our natural world. When we connect with nature, we are never truly alone. Picture yourself watching a sunset from a hammock stretched over the ocean. You feel the warmth of the sun, hear the waves, and you realize: you’re not isolated. You’re part of something much bigger.
So, the next time someone tells us that being alone is sad or undesirable, let’s remember this: it’s not a last resort. It’s a conscious choice, full of opportunity for balance, peace, and real connection—with ourselves and the world around us.
Wayne Dyer reminds us that “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”