Playing for the Long Haul Means Unstuffing Ourselves
We each have an opportunity to imagine what we want to create in our life and our world. There is no need to rush. For me, the wisest advice I ever got was to go slow, which goes against everything I was told I needed to achieve a successful life. Having lived in the midst of Nature until April 2021, I learned firsthand that Nature doesn’t rush. And that I no longer need to live within someone else’s paradigm or story.
Facing my limiting beliefs head-on allowed me to let them go. The work I am meant to do in our world with The Triplets became not only clear but very meaningful. It helped me understand that it was time to unstuff myself from whatever was holding me back: people, beliefs, food and work. Here are a few insights I’d like to share with you from my heart to yours …
Unlearning: I continue to unlearn (or un-condition) from whatever and whoever no longer serves my best and highest calling. This means making some choices where people around me thought I was crazy to leave safe and lucrative projects and partnerships. I simply threw myself into situations with increasing awareness of trusting my heart to navigate not only the traps and seductions but also the opportunities to make healthy choices. I found myself walking away (and sometimes running) from situations that created drama and anxiety.
Today, I have incredible partners in my life who truly get me. Together, we are creating with ease and flow. And, this is just the very beginning as life continues to unfold and provide opportunities to experience everything by learning what works for me and what doesn’t.
Unstuffing: We each have our own fears. Some are rational like not walking into oncoming traffic and others are irrational like not believing we are good enough or have enough. I’ve learned to distinguish between the two and understand the root cause of where a fear was planted deep inside of me.
And when a fear does creep in or when I feel deep resistance to something that should be easy but turns into a colossal nightmare, I have learned to once again, to slow down and pause. This allows me to observe what needs more balance in my life and to trust my intuition and the whispers of my heart. The more I unstuff myself, the more courage appears. And some rational fear is healthy as it motivates me to truly look inside and let go.
Experimenting: When I am meant to fail or fall (or have some big lessons come my way, which is how I like to define failing), I will. And it is no longer about feeling shame or hurt when I fail because I cleared myself from harsh self-criticism and judgment. I am often my toughest critics who can get in my own way of seeing what’s possible.
And like many of us, I forgot that when I was five years old, learning how to ride a bike, I would often fall and scrape a knee or two. But I would always get up because I loved the feeling of those wheels hitting the pavement and my body flowing with the wind in whatever direction I chose to pedal. And as I got older, I was allowed to explore more and feel a certain sense of freedom of being mobile.
Failing often is a gift that teaches me what may not be in my best and highest interest. Imagine for a moment that you stayed in that unhealthy relationship or job? Did you truly fail or was it time to become aware or conscious of your opportunities?
Playing Big: I became increasingly aware (conscious) that I am more powerful than I was told or taught. In fact, every day I get to make choices when I no longer live in the world of fear. I get to choose whether I want to suffer and be miserable; or take a path of unveiling my true calling and follow my heart in harmony with the Universe. The question I started asking myself as I faced different decisions is: is it a conscious choice?
And a wise woman helped me understand years ago when I was going through my second divorce to ask, what’s the worst thing that can happen? and then sit with my answer. It was truly liberating to understand the root of fears and beliefs that were instilled in me from ancestors and society.
Do you understand what could happen when you become sovereign and release yourself from painful stories and beliefs? Another wise woman recently asked me this question: who is riding your energy? It made me aware that I needed to stay on course and not get swept up or seduced by shiny promises that were not in my best and highest calling. What does playing big mean to you?
Are You Ready to Step Out of the Shadows?
This is an incredible time in human history to step into our power. We will witness over the next few years, more and more people from all walks of life saying: ENOUGH. And whether it’s knowing that you are enough or understanding what your enough is when it comes to food, money, relationships and every aspect of your life, you will become conscious of when enough is enough. Not always needing more or better.
By doing so, you’ll begin to allow yourself to live life on your terms. For me, this has meant no longer playing small and understanding that there’s no longer anything to lose as I step into my sovereignty and create like never before–without judgment, shaming, blaming or feeling offended. Unlike society, which teaches a scarcity-mindset, Nature taught me that there’s enough for all of us as we experience the warmth of the sun, the radiance of colors, and the intelligence of trees and fungi beneath our very feet.
Albert Einstein reminds us that, “The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.” A healthy, thriving path emerges when you have clarity and get aligned with the abundant Natural world. Are you ready to unstuff yourself and become aware of what that means to you?