Let’s take responsibility for everything because when we do, we step into our power. Only we can be responsible for the choices we make.
We can choose to feed on opportunities and not on solving problems or winning at all costs.
It’s no longer just the responsibility of corporations and governments to effect the change we want to see in our lives and world. No one is coming to save us from ourselves.
No matter how challenging it might seem, it is up to us to build trust, alliances and create caring communities.
One of the most important skills that conscious leaders have is the ability to listen. Self-awareness allows us to tap into empathy, compassion and beauty. We can suck less in collaborating by owning our responsibility to be trustworthy and not put it on anyone else.
Trusted relationships involve a high level of integrity and an openness to learning and creating together. When we connect in meaningful ways, there are three foundational elements:
#1—Creating spaces to connect and taking responsibility for bringing people together
Conversations are at the foundation of gathering and they are here to help us connect in meaningful ways. It’s okay to experiment and throw away the traditional meeting formats by welcoming radical conversation exchanges about uncertain futures.
When we take responsibility for our meetings, we can shift our focus to the dialogue that emerges and create information flows that are so needed right now. Creating healthy architecture for these exchanges will change everything.
#2—Being very selective in what and who gets our attention
Over sixty percent of a leader’s communication effectiveness (and leadership is not outside ourselves) is the alignment between words and actions. Walking the talk is what we pay most attention to as formal communication (emails, speeches, newsletters, announcements, etc.) are less than ten percent effective.
And twenty percent of effective communication is from the systems and structures we have in place. When the systems don’t support our talk, distrust comes in.
People pay attention to the people we spend time with, who get our attention and can see whether what we say and do is aligned or not. Integrity is at the heart of how we show up.
#3—Taking responsibility for setting our own value
No more giving ourselves away for free or doing things at our own expense.
Understanding the unique gifts we each bring creates healthy boundaries and understanding of what we are being drawn to, which facilitates responsible co-creation. There is value in showing up authentically over the long haul as a way to build trust. And what better way than to take risks and try uncertain things.
Taking responsibility comes with the rewards of opening up opportunities, relationships and communities that you were unaware of before.
Creating, nurturing, growing and building something meaningful, no matter how small or big, with trusted partners is something we each hope to experience in our lifetime.
Stephen Hawking in ‘The Theory Of Everything’ shared “There should be no boundaries to human endeavor. We are all different. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. While there’s life, there is hope.”