Why Do We Stand?
So many people are choosing to stand right now, which is great, because we have been sitting for far too long. And research has uncovered that all this sitting is unhealthy. But is all this standing necessary, don’t we need to be in motion and in flow?
Standing across deep divides is unhealthy. Last year, I tried to work with someone who kept asking where she stood. A number of us were in the initial phase of dreaming together and trekking into the unknown. We were imagining with no constraints. Because there were open fields that needed exploration.
Trekking into the unknown is freeing or very scary; depends on whether you choose where you stand and with who. In the world that is emerging, it is important to be very clear on who is ready to partner and who is not. If there is constant conflict and drama, then it’s simply unhealthy for everyone. There is no need to bring baggage to where we are headed.
We are each at our own intersection and sometimes things fall apart when the focus is on the structure of where we stand, for example, instead of what we are exploring.
Taking theFirst Steps
The first step into the unknown is very different from ones we have taken. Because we have never been here before. And not everyone is comfortable with not knowing.
When you invite someone into your home and offer them a place to stay, you get to know a great deal about the person. If they choose to break things and don’t respect your space, you could ask them to leave. You will definitely not extend another invitation.
When we invite someone to join our mission and life’s work, we take a risk. The same is true when we open our hearts to love. And, trust is where relationships make it or break it. Trusting ourselves enough to explore the edges.
In the old world, someone tells us where we stand. We find ourselves asking for permission.
In the emerging world, we decide where we stand, together, writing new stories and experimenting.
We get to choose who is healthy and toxic for our wellbeing. We often need to set boundaries and respect ourselves more than needing to be liked.
Stand in Integrity
As the energies of the world are transforming, we can sit and wait for things to change or we can change ourselves; knowing that safety is often risky. We are being asked to stand in our integrity and take small steps.
We learn to walk towards the unknown and to better discern what resonates and stands the test of nature. Caring awakens with us to find anyone who is ready to create what is needed now. We increasingly will find ourselves more active in a community that serves us and each other to transform society into a healthy living being.
When we are committed to stand together, we offer hope. For me, I learned that it’s not my job to heal the suffering, heartaches and wounding of others as that is a personal journey we are each on. And many times, the person suffering isn’t ready to take a leap of faith. But when they are ready, they will stand in their own power and decide how they want to contribute.
Growth happens when we understand that there is beauty and discomfort in every moment. Our opportunity is choosing how we approach and respond. Tapping into our wisdom, experience and intuition, our decisions, actions and words make a difference in how we move forward.
Everything is Here
Pema Chödrön understands that everything changes when we emit our own frequency rather than absorb the ones around us. We imprint our own intent rather than accept an imprint from society.
“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart.
Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”