Why Trust is the Glue of Life
When trust is broken, it’s tough to recover. When people say one thing and are not true to their words through their actions, they show us who they are and no words can repair it.
It is exhausting and draining to be around the energy of broken trust, which is alive and well in every corner of the world. And we can see it now more than ever because what we call social media is not actually social. It has been built around broadcasting, advertising and being better and more liked than others. A friend recently shared that going viral on TikTok is overrated. While her video has more than 11 million views, it has “only drawn culturally programmed 12-year-olds” who are trolling her.
We have simply taken the disfunction of day-to-day life and replicated it online; creating more podiums for experts to lecture from. The need to be right and shut people down who don’t agree with us by shaming them is at all-time high. The blame that is alive in so many posts shows the symptoms of brokenness within a soul. How has it become easier to go out in the world and yell than look deep inside ourselves, pause and see our own wounds?
An Untrustworthy World of Transactions
Everything has become a transaction and this is why the road to building trusted relationships is a very long one when we don’t know how to have a loving relationship with ourselves. You can tell pretty quickly the brokenness in someone; it’s all about how they treat or lash out at the world. And most of the time, they are totally unaware because they have learned to be the victim. According to their worldview, everything would be different if everyone played by their rules and smartened up.
Someone may complain and blame someone who was a narcissist in their life and be unaware that they have adopted the same tendencies. A person who was bullied can show up as a bully totally unaware that they have become the bully they claim to despise. The cycles of suffering simply continue until patterns can be seen and healthy choices are made. And in a world of blaming, shaming and judging it is easier to blame out and find fault. But isn’t it draining to be in a constant struggle?
A business owner can share their internal problems and woes. But a customer is focused on their own experience and what they need. A customer does not want to feel like a transaction just like an employee does not want to feel like a cog in a machine.
And when it’s all about an exchange of money rather than trust, according to Alan Watts, “If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you’ll spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing, which is stupid.”
But that’s not how life is and not where we are headed. Listening is a total game-changer as is dialogue and trusted relationships.
It’s Time to Change the Channel and Trust Ourselves
Many people are going through difficult times, but it’s not socially acceptable (yet) to openly discuss the increasing need we have to deal with all the trauma that’s bouncing around our planet. It’s much easier to condition ourselves to be heroes who mask our pain. That cannot be our way forward, as our lives matter deeply and we have an opportunity to support ourselves and each other. We’ve been gifted with more than we can ever imagine and we can change the programming of the stories we’ve been fed.
Be in your power to decide whether a person is healthy or unhealthy for you by trusting your intuition and feeling deeply into your body for how they resonate with your energy—and if you feel that they don’t get you, don’t suck it up or suffer. This is your life and you get to navigate according to your own compass.
People can help, but no one has your answer. Boundaries that are broken help us clear the way for fresh experiences that are more aligned with what we want to explore on our life’s journey. Every breath allows us to go deep inside and get aligned with what is waiting to be experienced.
Self-awareness is the path to changing a belief, so as we fully understand what has taken place, even the most stubborn neural pathways of the past start to rewire themselves effortlessly.
Ask yourself, “What is the first step I can take right now in this moment? What is within my control around who I choose to trust?”