Who Do You Trust? Who Trusts You?
Every person and situation that crosses our path is here to teach us something—and how we react also teaches us something about ourselves. We can learn from every interaction, whether we’re ready for the lesson or not.
When we surround ourselves with people who are angry, who love to blame others, and who always seem to be victimized, we’ll spend much of our life engrossed in their never-ending tales of drama and idle chatter. People get a lot of their energy and recognition from creating drama. It’s our choice not to participate in their play, unless we truly feel there is something for us to learn from the experience.
The question to ask ourselves here is whether we’re offering assistance at our own expense. There really is no reason to chase someone else’s story. Sometimes, we may be so hungry for connection, we’ll experiment with different groups, or follow trendsetters or popular social media platforms for answers.
Either way, we’re taught to find the answers to our personal problems by looking outside of ourselves, and that is the very opposite direction of where we could be heading. This is an easy trap to fall into, however, because it’s possible to occasionally find answers from the outside world that feel satisfying for the moment.
It’s important to recognize how much time and effort we spend dealing with the stress of our careers and the drama of our relationships. They take up a lot of our energy, and a part of us is always aware of the fact that we don’t have to be so entangled. Accepting this while knowing and acting upon it is what’s challenging. When we accept this, we can change our behavior and better protect our own energy, remaining alert and not falling back into the cycle of creating drama to fill the void of no drama.
Within the deepest part of yourself, there exists a core identity that only you can access
We reveal our true selves through actions, not words, and we often make the mistake of choosing to ignore the signs and not acknowledge that someone is full of shit. We tell ourselves, “He didn’t really mean it,” or, “She’s not like that,” or, “I can help her.”
We’re conditioned by this societal code to trust others before we learn how to trust ourselves and our intuitions. This happens a lot professionally. There is an expectation that we must fix a certain situation or resolve disagreements or conflicts. It doesn’t matter how many conflict-resolution classes we sit through; we will inevitably fail to find a satisfactory resolution until we start with ourselves.
When we’re feeling pressured, we tend to hurry and anxiously come up with a solution. In the rush and anxiety, we’ll more than likely lose sight of why we’re excited about something. To build solid and trusted relationships with anyone—especially ourselves—takes time. No amount of rushing or pushing will build them quicker. As with the apples, racing to pick them sooner will not bring a better harvest. A relationship founded on trust and respect will yield to more effortless and meaningful collaboration, bringing the most valuable assets together so everyone benefits.
Who do you trust? Who trusts you?