Fitting In and Belonging

Fitting in means to feel that we belong or be liked and accepted. And we’ve been taught to change who we are so we are not left out. But being accepted for who we really are—then we feel a sense of belonging, which is essential to our well-being.

Most kids can’t wait to be grown up. The fantasy is that when you are an adult you can make your own choices, stay up all night and drink grown-up beverages. It looks so easy and rewarding. 

But nobody tells us that it’s a lot tougher than it looks. Those feelings we may have that we are not good enough, that we’re doing something wrong, they tend to stay with us.

Most people spend their entire lives trying to fit in and measure up. But there is a time when we start to see the truth. 

Being grown up simply means we know who we are and we have the courage to be that person.

What if we don’t let anyone put us in a box? What if we no longer buy into the labels that divide us? There are more and more of us who don’t want to fit in. 

This is a time in history when we can be who we are because we are curious about life. The future is in our hands when we are fully present. 

As we grow up, we learn that rules do not always need to be followed. And beyond adult beverages, we can live life on our terms. The child in us may refuse to conform and be curious to explore. I’s up to each of us to choose whether we march to the beat of our own drummer or fit in. What are you choosing?