Our Mindset Matters More than We Know
Our mindset matters especially when we learn to exercise it. We get messages from ourselves all the time and whether we choose to listen is up to us.
When we feel stuck in our career or life direction, perhaps it is a signal that it’s time to make a change. Maybe the deeper message is that it’s time to let go to how we react to certain situations rather than suffer through them?
While it appears to be a problem, maybe it’s an opportunity to surrender or allow ourselves to react differently? When we hold on to things too tightly, there is not much space for anything else or a situation to emerge. We usually get more of the same and it becomes a stressful cycle.
Can We Adopt A Healthy Mindset?
Someone shared with me the other day that they were the “better person” in a situation. It reminded me that as we age and are shaped by society, we are constantly trying to be the better person, and forget to be ourselves. Imagine if we didn’t need to compete or impress anyone and got to be who we are and simply be the best we can be without taking anyone down.
It might sound hokey but this is so hard for so many people who are struggling to simply be. And why we are seeing an increase of training and workshops on how to be authentic and vulnerable.
Don’t you think it’s fascinating that we are in a time when experts are here to teach and instruct us how to be human? What if every day forward, we each would strive to say what we really feel, without needing to be the better person or fear “offending” anyone?
I recently encountered someone who was constantly feeling offended. Ironically, her social media updates attacked whoever she felt was “wrong” or opposed her beliefs. At one point, she wanted me to agree with her and I simply let go as in my world there is no space for the mindset of division.
What I experienced was someone who didn’t want to listen and was sadly, warring within herself. And while I felt huge compassion, it was her work to discover that there is a much healthier path in this plain of existence when we choose to see possibilities.
Shifts that Are Calling Us
If you’re dependent on other people’s opinions of you, then be prepared to be offended for the rest of your life. You can stay stuck in the old system and complain about the injustices, or you can step out and create. There are billions of people hanging on to dear life right now, resisting change and simply moving the deck chairs on a sinking ship, expecting different outcomes.
Buckminster Fuller was all about clarity of mindset, “If humanity does not opt for integrity we are through completely. It is absolutely touch and go. Each one of us could make the difference.”
There are three shifts we are being called to consider right now:
- We say what we feel, which means that we also choose how we react with empathy, compassion and curiosity. No blaming, shaming judging or attacking need to come with us on this trek of communicating authentically, especially with ourselves.
- Walking our talk and doing something that feels important to our well-being.
- Not compromising by showing up in full integrity, which means breaking an old pattern, habit or belief that keeps us from being our true self.
When we stop following the crowd or needing to be better than anyone, we become authentic and vulnerable in finding the courage to live fully. And while it can be scary, it will most likely take you to a joyful place where you no longer need to pretend or be someone you are not.
Earl Nightingale says it all, “A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.”